Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Breast Pads

I've decided to include some thoughts on different things I've found useful while being a mum. I have not been sent these products. They are items I have bought or been given as gifts. These are my own views and I just thought I would add them. As they are quite often things my friends and I discuss.

Not sure how everyone else copes with different brands but I have used just about every brand this time.

First time round I just used mothercare own brand with H but this time I just found most of them filled up so quick that before I knew it both my bra and top were soaked, especially at night.

Most where very small so at night time just disappeared and some just too unreliable when it came to absorption.

Over the past 8 months I have finally settled on two brands that I now love and trust when it come to keeping me dry. Tommee Tippee and Lansinoh are those.

Both are very similar. They are both quite large but thin with great absorption. The TT ones come wrapped as pairs where the Lansinoh ones are wrapped individually.

I also have some washable ones I keep for emergency, when you don't realise you've reached the bottom if the box already. But I found I was soaking these through quite quickly as well.

Monday, 29 October 2012

Cycling fun


So today's the first day of half term. Hubby decided he needed the car for work but also needed us to pick up his prescription. 

All this meant I had to use the new bike trailer. 

I bought it two weeks ago. Now I'm defiantly not returning to work I need to find a way of cutting our bills down. One being petrol. We are not too bad when it comes to fuel. We are not your average British family running two cars. We only have one but that one is a big engined Volvo V70 estate. 

We bought it because before S came along we were camping for our holidays. And really wanted something with a massive boot. The Volvo had the biggest boot. Unfortunately it also has a big gas guzzling engine. I can't believe how much petrol we go through each month. 

Hubby cycles the 14 mile round trip to work and back leaving me with the car to shuttle the kids around and grocery shop. I don't use the car for school runs as H's school is only 3 doors away but we do live in slight isolation as the nearest village is 2 miles away and we have no bus service. 

I bought the trailer so I can take S to toddlers and friends by bike and we can also little top up shops in the next village. 

We did our first trial of it today and I don't know if its because I was going at the slower pace of H or if its just that I've got so unfit since having S. But it was a lot harder work than I expected. 

Maybe it's a good thing. After all a little bit if exercise hurts no one. Just don't expect much housework out of me for the rest of the day lol.  

Sunday, 21 October 2012

Soo she's a daddy's girl

Well I went out last night. Was paranoid all night that if I phoned home hubby would have just got her off to sleep and I would wake her. So I resisted the urge to call.

Turns out she was brilliant for him. She drank almost all her bottle and went to sleep. She slept until 5:30am. I can't believe it.

Saturday, 20 October 2012

First time out alone

I'm both excited and nervous about tonight. It will be my first night out since Little Miss S was born without her.

I think the word anxious best describes me right now. I'm already feeling very sorry for hubby who is probably going to have a very tearful night.

What with no special fresh mummy milk to fall asleep with. There is also the added upset that one of her top teeth has decided to make this weekend it's time to make an appearance. Making me feel even more guilty.

Im sure I left Miss H much earlier than this. But then I had stopped breastfeeding her at 12 weeks and she had a dummy. S is now 8 months still breastfeeding and doesn't have a dummy. Although I feel very proud of this. It also makes me feel that she is very much more dependant on me.

So all this is leaving me split with mixed feelings about tonight. As much as I'm looking forward to letting my hair down. I can't nudge the feeling of anxiety.

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

Ouchy

This is now the second time S has had a lazy feed in the night and caused a blister on me leading to a blocked duct.

I'm in so much pain at the moment. All I can do is feed from my good side and express from my bad with lots of lanolin.

My nipple hurts from the blister and my breast hurts from the lump forming from the blocked duct. Last time it took about 4 days to right it's self. I'm on day 3 at the moment. I really hope it sorts its self out soon.

She got very upset earlier when she saw me expressing. I think she thinks the pump is stealing her milk lol.

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Playing Out

There has been something very sad on the news today. A little girl in Wales has gone missing. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-19800140

As a parent my thoughts go to the family. I can't even begin to think about how they must be feeling right now.

I have many friends from around the country and the world on my Facebook page. And one thing this has started is a discussion on what age should you be letting your child out to play on there own and until what time of night?

The family is being judged somewhat unfairly by many who say she should never had been allowed out playing at that time. Others don't see what the issue is. It's a rural village where everyone felt safe. Why shouldn't she be allowed to play out with her friends.

We live in a fairly rural area. In a quiet little village. I do occasionally let my 7yr old out to play on her own (out of the garden). We live 3 doors down from her school I let her walk to school on her own. I let her go to the playgrounds at weekends. I worry the whole time she's out of my sight.

The truth is I don't have to let her do this but I choose to let her. Why? Well because I feel she needs to learn trust responsibility and a sense of freedom.

When I was 7 I lived in a village bigger than this one. I was allowed to play from the top of the close (where we lived but you couldn't see the road from our house). To the bottom of the close. Which my mum could defiantly not see from our house. It was great. I could ride my bike, roller skate call for friends. It gave me freedom and independence and on many occasions I played out there with my younger brother. We were taught stranger danger and we felt safe. I'm guessing my parents felt it was safe as well as they let us out there.

These days kids are suffering with health issues like obesity and rickets because they are cooped up indoors in cotton wool all day long because we are too scared of the dangers out there. If your lucky enough to live in an area where you feel you can let your child play out. Then why shouldn't you. Statistically they are at no more risk than we were when we were children. It's just we know the dangers now.

I must admit though I do have rules for my daughter when she's playing out. Every 15 minutes she has to come back and check in with me then she is allowed out another 15 minutes if she's late then she's not allowed back out. It's the same rules we use when camping. If we have to go find her. She's not allowed back out. She's also not allowed in anyone's tent or at home house and none of her friends are allowed in ours. This way everyone can see where they are and what they are upto.

At the end of the day who are we to criticise someone else's parenting technique. We all bring our kids up the best we can. I see where my friends are coming from with there comments but someone could also say they are not preparing their children for the big bad world. I'm sure the parents of this little girl are beating them selves up enough over this, without all the added judgement.

I really hope they find her safe and well.